It’ll please some of you to know that I almost called this post “Are You There God, It’s Me, the Girl Who Can’t Stop Being Bitchy and Snapping at Everyone Including Her Dog”, but I thought that might be a bit too strong.
Another alternative title was “How to Not Feel Like a Gremlin Who Ate After Midnight and Scare Everyone You Love”. Closer, but I just wasn’t feelin’ it.
Okay, okay. Enough playin’ around. Let’s be real.
Like attracts like. If you’re feeling good, doin’ your thing, and putting great energy out there that’s exactly what’s going to be returned to you.
But we all get trapped in a negative mindset at times and raising your vibe can be rough when you’re feeling so low. No one can be positive all the time and they shouldn’t be, but if you’re stuck in a rut you just can’t snap out of remember you get to paint your reality. You can decide if you want to stay in that state of mind or not.
You don’t need a trip to Cabo to snap you out of it (although that would definitely do it for me!). There’s plenty of little ways you can add a little shimmer and sparkle to your day that don’t cost a ton of money or require a trip overseas.
Time to pack away those grumpy faces!
And, just for you gorgeous souls, here’s a cute template that you can use to jot down the below ideas that speak to you and any other ones you can think of! That way whenever you feel like you’re in a funk that just won’t quit you have a few go-to tools that you know can help you get those positive vibes up again. Go ahead and download it and let’s get to the juicy stuff!
Please note that long-lasting depression could be a symptom of something more serious. If your negative moods are impacting your health or relationships please seek out help from a medical professional.
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Self-care isn’t just about shelling out for manis & pedis or going to a bougie dinner. It’s about learning to love yourself, hearing what your inner self needs, and providing it.
Sometimes all your inner self really needs is just a leisurely 10-minute walk without any distractions pulling your focus so your mind can just take in the sights. It doesn’t matter if those sites are a nice wooded area accompanied by the chirp of birds or a city sidewalk and a symphony of car horns.
What matters is you’re giving your mind some much-needed R&R from the constant stimuli of your laptop, phone, social media accounts, kids, significant other, etc. We were SO not meant to be on point 100% of the time. No wonder we get grouchy!
If you’re looking for some budget-friendly ways to practice self-care I have the post for you right here!
If you’re looking to dive a little deeper, I love what my girl Morgan is doing with her Self-Care Society. She has an ah-mazing E-book that takes you through 5-weeks of different self-care and journaling exercises. I just finished up week 5 and I loved it! If you want to videos that go along with each week you can purchase her workshop bundle too. Bonus, you’ll see yours truly on them!
*Extra, extra bonus! I have a promo code for you fabulous females. Use Buddhabelly when checking out for 20% off your purchase!*
The community of Self-Care Society is just like no other!
Read an Inspirational Book to Raise Your Vibe
I’m the girl who’s always saying “OMG, I’ve got just the book for that”!
….so yeah, I have a book for this!
Right now I’m ALL about Sarah Ordo’s book Not Sorry.
If you want the motivation to stand-up, grow some damn lady balls, and make your dreams a reality this is your book!
Sarah is brassy and hilarious. I’m here for it and if you need a lil’ pick me up to get you jazzed about going after your goals this will do it.
Who wouldn’t need a lil’ motivation after all we’ve had thrown at us this year?
Another book that’s been coming in highly recommended, and is next on my to-read list, is Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies by Tara Schuster. I can’t f*cking wait!
Try Something New
Doing something out of the norm takes you out of your day-to-day and helps you see the world through a new light.
A few years back I was dealing with a lot of abdominal pain issues and my life was pretty much going to work and doctor’s appointments. I was getting a major case of situational depression and I wanted to bring some pep back into my step so I decided to go sky diving.
By the time we got all the way up to the correct altitude for jumping, I was scared shitless and told my instructor he was going to have to shove me off the airplane. Thank god he listened because the ride down was so worth it. I was infused with this huge rush of feeling like I could do anything and that I was stronger than whatever pain I was going through.
You don’t need to go skydiving to try something new though. It can be as simple as cooking a new recipe, going for a hike, or learning a new skill with Skillshare!
Make Yourself a Playlist
For some reason, I always forget how much music lifts me up.
I can go from feeling downright batsh*t to I can conquer the world in the time it takes to finish Lizzo’s Good As Hell.
That would be approximately 2 mins and 46 secs.
Compile a list of songs that make you feel badass and like the empowered woman you are!
If singing is your thing, girl, then get yourself some songs you can belt!
Even though I’ve hung up my stage shoes singing is still one of my purest joys. When I sing I feel like my body, mind, and soul are just completely aligned and the energy I get from it is amazing.
I will always be that little 6-year-old girl who made sure to do at least one hour of dancing and singing framed by the big front windows my house had. Y’know, just in case a record producer came driving by and in the split second he saw me groovin’ in the window was like “YAS, my next star”!
My Mom let me do my thing, but she admitted many years later she was pretty nervous about kidnappers.
Moral of this story, sing your heart out, but maybe not in front of your home’s bay windows.
Put Pen to Paper
Clearing out the junk banging around in your head can go a long way to helping you feel better.
You can begin to see patterns or write out things you weren’t even aware you were thinking. When I feel self-doubt or jealousy creeping up I know it’s time to get to my journal and get back in touch with my higher-level self.
Journaling can be completely transformational when practiced over time, even if it’s only for 10-minutes a day. Check out my post on the benefits of journaling if you want to learn more.
If the idea of a blank page freaks you out then there’s plenty of prompts online that can get you started.
Get Your Sweat On
Do an activity that will get your heart pumping AND gets you excited!
If the idea of lifting weights makes you want to crawl into bed, but you know running gives you a sweet endorphin high then go running. I want you to pick something that lights you up.
My favorite feel-good exercises are yoga or dancing to 80s music. You know ya girl will bust a move to I Wanna Dance with Somebody any day of the dang week.
Try out a couple of different workouts and find a few that bring you the most joy!
Evaluate What You’re Consuming
Sometimes the trick to getting yourself out of a funk isn’t what you do but what you DON’T do that’s important.
While I think staying up to date on everything going on in the world is important the news can be extremely graphic and I find it pretty easy to go into negativity spiral when I’m reading article after article about the latest government scandal or tragedy. And that was all pre-COVID-19!
I learned a long time ago that it’s really important for me to put up boundaries around how much news I was consuming. I usually choose to read a few articles from resources I trust and spend no more than 20-minutes.
Practice an Elevated Ritual
Instead of hitting the snooze alarm three times and rushing to get out of the house in the morning try to actually get up at the first alarm. As much as I hate to say this, it’s actually hurting you to keep dropping back into sleep between alarms. Don’t tell my boyfriend he was right. He’ll never let me forget it!
Instead, use the extra time to make a great cup of coffee in a french press and spend a few minutes mindfully enjoying your coffee or journaling. Having an elevated ritual to look forward to each day can not only give you a much-needed boost of energy, but it can be a reminder to check in with yourself daily to see how you’re feeling. Something I think we often forget in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
You could also do a quick 10-minute meditation or yoga session focused on whatever your intention is for the day.
I know when I start my mornings this way I’m always way more efficient and upbeat during the day.
It can be any time of day too! My nighttime skincare routine is an elevated ritual I try to practice every night. I turn on some calming yoga-esque music, slow down my breathing, and give myself a little facial massage as I do my skincare.
One of the easiest ways to add an elevated ritual to your pre-scheduled programming is to take something you already do and make it a bit more special and intentional.
Bring out the fancy plates for dinner each night or splurge on those high thread-count sheets that make you let out a little sigh of happiness every night you go to bed. I LOVE my set from brooklinen.
If you feel immediate resistance to this one it’s probably because it’s what you need most.
If you’re feeling it, don’t worry, you’re not the only one. I used to have a really hard time forgiving people because I feel things so deeply, but anger and resentment will eat away at you, and doing the work to get to a place of forgiveness is for you, not them.
Forgiveness lets you move beyond a situation. It’s a gift to yourself.
If you have an issue you need to talk through with someone then have the hard conversation. Hard conversations make for easier lives and easier conversations make for harder lives. Be willing to have the tough convos because it will pay off in the end.
If talking to the person isn’t an option or would do more harm than good try journaling it out. One of the exercises I love to do is write a letter to that person explaining why I’m upset and then write a letter back from them apologizing. I’ll be honest, when I first heard about it I thought it was pretty silly, but after trying it I was surprised that I actually felt a lot better.
I recommend burning both letters so there’s nothing left of the situation to hold onto. Burning them in the fire can be symbolic of finally cutting the cord on the issue and letting yourself be free.
Action Plan: The Raise Your Vibe Toolkit
Go ahead and pull out your journal, notebook, planner, whatever, and come up with a list of 3 things you know makes you feel high-vibe when you’re feeling down.
I want you to write this down somewhere for safekeeping. That way when you’re having a not so stellar day you have something to turn to. It can be hard to muster the energy to bust out of a rut, but by having this written down already you have a list you can turn to instead of trying to think of something on the spot.
I hope this gave you some ideas on small ways you can raise your vibe right now!
How do you get out of a funk? Let me know in the comments!
Want more? Check out these posts:
- How to Create a Personal Development Plan: The Ultimate Guide (+ Bonus Workbook)
- How to Stop Self-Doubt Now!
- What is Productivity Coaching and Do You Need It?